dating life lessons?

Honestly,

 Writing rules is like, my mom telling me to make my bed. Sometimes, I dont wanna, I dont hafttaaa, or I'll do it later. So, for me, sharing my list with no title, is a little weird. Maybe it can provide a perspective? I mean. My last relationship didn't end so well. And well to stay honest, my track record of boyfriends...keeping boyfriends...hasn't been the best. I've accepted somethings about myself. I took some time to look over my life, what keeps me happy, what I want, where I want to go, what I want to do etc. While I did that, I've also learned some hard to life lessons. It's been weird taking care of myself then focusing on others. Call me selfish, cause I know I am. I get to be for now. S0, while I've been busy with my life, work, single and mingling; I've come up with a few life lessons? I don't want to call them rules. These are really just things I've learned. And I'm choosing to share them with you, cause I love ya. Here it goes:

- If he is interested he'll text you first. 

this one was hard for me to grasp. I'd get so excited that a hot guy was texting me and i'd shoot him texts like no one business. Then it just pours water on the spark, ya know? You gotta keep that fire goin. 

If you give him your number at a bar, or where ever the lucky guy, managed to hold you into a decent conversation, long enough, for you to brave the unknown. And he doesn't text you right away, the next day, or on the third day/night. Don't fret. Patience. Try not to think about it so much. Just do you. 

-If he texts you first. Wait at least 10 minutes before answering.

I don't know why I started doing this. But my rationale is the guy texted me...he could wait a little longer. Maybe I'm a tease? Or maybe I was just busy doing something? He has no idea. But some how it holds his attention. 

-If the conversation goes dull or he doesn't reply back in an hour or so. Or you sent the last text and he hasn't replied. let it be. Put your phone away and dont stress over it. I close my the conversation so I'm not tempted to text him a story. He's busy. Give him space. If he knows what's good for him he'll text back. If not. His loss. 

-if he gives you his number. The power is all yours. Ball is in your court. Usually I wait  3 days after to text him. That was his risk he took giving you his number. You have a choice. Text him or don't. No ones judging you. If you remember what you saw and liked then go for it. If not throw away the gum wrapper with his name and number on it. 

-if you text him after three days. Conversation is great. Talk on the phone. He makes plans to cook you dinner and hang out. And then he bails/ disappears. Forget about him. Other fish in the sea.  And it's not your fault this happened. The guy is probably busy. In the meantime, don't wait around! Get out there ! Dance ! Have a good time with friends! Maybe he will come around? If not? Don't sweat it. 

I've grown up a bit over the past year. I've learned that i'm independent and I try not to depend so much on others. In a way it protects me from bull shit. I still let people in and treat them like family. But when it comes to relationships and guys I'm interested in. I've recently discovered I go for guys who are independent as well. Right now, I don't want a serious relationship. I don't want to be exclusive. So an open relationship works. I'm not into one night stands. Been down that road, it's not my style. I like starting a relationship as friends while getting to know each other. Whatever happens from there happens. We could stay friends or it could turn out that we like each other more then friends. 

I'm attracted to personality, honesty, communication, fun, adventure, randomness, music, creativity etc in a man. I like dem relatively tall (but i'm not too picky), smell good, great smile, great attitude, and big dreams...among other things. I don't want men lined up at my door way with flowers and a cheeky smile tomorrow. I'd shit a brick.  Anyways...

You know that feeling when someone is beside you? Your bed is a little less colder, a little warmer then usual. That company or feeling of just knowing there's a breathing person beside you. Sometimes thats all it takes to keep me happy. Who doesn't love cuddles? Falling asleep with your friend after talking for hours about random shit. laughing. Maybe kissing a little? It feels like you are boyfriend and girlfriend. But you aren't. You've created this bubble where no one knows what you really are. And you both don't really care or already know or like things the way they are. It's mysteriously awesome. Even though all your friends know there's something between you. You don't hang off each other. You're comfortable going up to the bar and flirting with the cute bartender. And there's no jealousy. You're both available. 

And then the inevitable will happen. This is because it won't be a blissful relationship. He or she will want more. One of them wants things the way they are. So the other goes and looks for the missing puzzle piece he or she thought he or she had. Are you catching my drift? It won't always be sunshine and rainbows. And that's when you say. I want you to be happy even if it's not with me. And you move on. But until then. Waking up in the morning to a smiley face is happiness to me. 

I've found and will keep the things that make/ keep me happy around me. It's taken me awhile to be truly satisfied. And even though it's still weird doing things for myself. i like getting to experience the things i never would have...if i didnt step out of my comfort zone or my bubble. 

Woah this blog post started somewhere and ended different. HOW IRONIC!

Going to the Matchbox 20 and Goo Goo Dolls concert tonight at the Molson Amphitheater.  it's gonna be a blast :D

stay safe !